The most resilient people are also skilled communicators. First, they have the ability to articulate their challenges and their coping strategies:
“I can’t stay late at work tonight on such short notice. Let’s talk tomorrow about how we can get the job done more efficiently without either of us having to work overtime.”
“I am going to the gym because it helps me be able to focus better on us when I get home. I’ll see you in an hour.”
“Something upsetting happened today. I don’t really want to talk about it yet. Can you sit on the couch with me and hug me?”
These skillful communicators are adept at expressing their needs as well as actively listening to others. The person, in most cases, communicates what they need to feel better or hold a boundary, but also highlights how that will positively impact the relationship or situation. 
Renee Branson 